Happy Father’s Day
“Everyday is Father’s Day”
Reading for the Week of June 20 – 26
Day 1- 1 Thessalonians 4
Day 2- 1 Thessalonians 5
Day 3- Philippians 2
Day 4- Philippians 4
Day 5- Romans 5
Day 6- Romans 12
Bonus- 2 Peter 1
Memorize/Reflect- “Be joyful always, pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18)
Reflection- Do I make giving thanks part of my daily routine?
Discussion- Am I naturally joyful or not, and if not, how can I create a joyful attitude in a difficult world during tough times?
Prayer Direction- Ask God to give you the guidance and direction you need to set up a structure of self-reminding! It’s no shame to forget and slowly drift away from prayer, joy and thankfulness. This happened back in the days of Jesus and Peter and it happens today with us. Pray for the power to make this “will for you” part of your every-day life.
“Live It!” Challenge- Set your watch, phone, computer, or some other device to go off twice a day this week. When it does: 1) Stop and evaluate how thankful you have been in the past few hours, 2) Thank God for two or three things!
June Prayer Focus: Continue your focus on confession in your prayers. Use this simple format for your prayers: 1) I confess where I have not followed Your will in my past; 2) I confess where I am resisting Your leading and will today…help me surrender to you; 3) I ask you to help me surrender my future to you, more and more, so I need to confess less and less.
April-June: Continue the practice of Silence. This week, try a 30 minute time of silence and simply listen for God’s voice.
Resources in the Shoreline Bookstore: Check out, Master Your Money or Generous Living by Ron Blue. Also, Pick up Seismic Shifts, by Kevin Harney and read chapters 13-15…they are all about money.
Happy Father’s Day
“Everyday is Father’s Day”
Reading for the Week of June 20 – 26
Day 1- 1 Thessalonians 4
Day 2- 1 Thessalonians 5
Day 3- Philippians 2
Day 4- Philippians 4
Day 5- Romans 5
Day 6- Romans 12
Bonus- 2 Peter 1
Memorize/Reflect- “Be joyful always, pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18)
Reflection- Do I make giving thanks part of my daily routine?
Discussion- Am I naturally joyful or not, and if not, how can I create a joyful attitude in a difficult world during tough times?
Prayer Direction- Ask God to give you the guidance and direction you need to set up a structure of self-reminding! It’s no shame to forget and slowly drift away from prayer, joy and thankfulness. This happened back in the days of Jesus and Peter and it happens today with us. Pray for the power to make this “will for you” part of your every-day life.
“Live It!” Challenge- Set your watch, phone, computer, or some other device to go off twice a day this week. When it does: 1) Stop and evaluate how thankful you have been in the past few hours, 2) Thank God for two or three things!
June Prayer Focus: Continue your focus on confession in your prayers. Use this simple format for your prayers: 1) I confess where I have not followed Your will in my past; 2) I confess where I am resisting Your leading and will today…help me surrender to you; 3) I ask you to help me surrender my future to you, more and more, so I need to confess less and less.
April-June: Continue the practice of Silence. This week, try a 30 minute time of silence and simply listen for God’s voice.
Resources in the Shoreline Bookstore: Check out, Master Your Money or Generous Living by Ron Blue. Also, Pick up Seismic Shifts, by Kevin Harney and read chapters 13-15…they are all about money.
ON-SITE FINGERPRINTING COMING SOON!
Here’s a great opportunity for all of you who have wanted to get involved with Awana Club, Sunday School or Special Children’s Events. Providing a safe environment for our children is important to us and so we require that everyone who works with our children be fingerprinted. On Sunday, September 13 we will offer in house fingerprinting from 8:30 am to 12:30 pm. You will find us set-up just outside the Shoreline Bookstore. Please bring a picture ID with you that day. If you have questions regarding this event you may email Stacee Johnson, stacee@shorelinechurch.org.
ON-SITE FINGERPRINTING COMING SOON!
Here’s a great opportunity for all of you who have wanted to get involved with Awana Club, Sunday School or Special Children’s Events. Providing a safe environment for our children is important to us and so we require that everyone who works with our children be fingerprinted. On Sunday, September 13 we will offer in house fingerprinting from 8:30 am to 12:30 pm. You will find us set-up just outside the Shoreline Bookstore. Please bring a picture ID with you that day. If you have questions regarding this event you may email Stacee Johnson, stacee@shorelinechurch.org.
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Parenting Tip
June 17, 2009
The Good Side of Anger
We’ve worked with many families, helping them deal with anger, both in children and adults. One of the first truths that we try to communicate is that anger is good for identifying problems but not good for solving them. Unfortunately, too many people don’t understand anger’s benefit and, as a result, end up feeling guilty about being angry, further complicating the emotional picture.
It’s important to understand that anger is not good as a response to problems. It usually builds walls, increases tension, and contributes to distance in relationships. But we do believe that anger is good for identifying problems. Once you understand anger, you’ll be able to use it to your advantage to point out problems in life. Then you must move into another mode or plan to solve those problems.
Ephesians 4:26 says, “In your anger do not sin.” This verse is just one that tells us that there is an anger that isn’t sinful.
One dad told us that when he began thinking about anger this way that his anger became less intense, he was angry less often, and when he did get angry, he knew what to do about it. That is exactly what we’re saying.
There are plenty of books on the market about managing anger and you can do a lot to calm your emotions but the anger control books don’t solve the real problem – your kids keep doing the wrong things! If you begin to use anger to identify the problems and then develop healthy solutions to address them, you’ll be using anger in a positive way.
Many parents have given up hope, believing that they have lost the battle with anger. They’re plagued with guilt about their emotions. Before you can improve your anger management or your children’s, you must first think rightly about anger. Anger is good for identifying problems but not good for solving them.
This tip comes from the book, Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.
If this tip was sent to you by a friend and you’d like to continue to receive tips yourself, you can sign up at www.biblicalparenting.org.
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Parenting Tip
June 17, 2009
The Good Side of Anger
We’ve worked with many families, helping them deal with anger, both in children and adults. One of the first truths that we try to communicate is that anger is good for identifying problems but not good for solving them. Unfortunately, too many people don’t understand anger’s benefit and, as a result, end up feeling guilty about being angry, further complicating the emotional picture.
It’s important to understand that anger is not good as a response to problems. It usually builds walls, increases tension, and contributes to distance in relationships. But we do believe that anger is good for identifying problems. Once you understand anger, you’ll be able to use it to your advantage to point out problems in life. Then you must move into another mode or plan to solve those problems.
Ephesians 4:26 says, “In your anger do not sin.” This verse is just one that tells us that there is an anger that isn’t sinful.
One dad told us that when he began thinking about anger this way that his anger became less intense, he was angry less often, and when he did get angry, he knew what to do about it. That is exactly what we’re saying.
There are plenty of books on the market about managing anger and you can do a lot to calm your emotions but the anger control books don’t solve the real problem – your kids keep doing the wrong things! If you begin to use anger to identify the problems and then develop healthy solutions to address them, you’ll be using anger in a positive way.
Many parents have given up hope, believing that they have lost the battle with anger. They’re plagued with guilt about their emotions. Before you can improve your anger management or your children’s, you must first think rightly about anger. Anger is good for identifying problems but not good for solving them.
This tip comes from the book, Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.
If this tip was sent to you by a friend and you’d like to continue to receive tips yourself, you can sign up at www.biblicalparenting.org.
Parenting Tip
Understanding Why We Get Angry
One of the helpful steps in helping children control their anger is to recognize four causes of anger. After children have settled down and you debrief with them about their anger, talk about what’s causing it. You and your child may see patterns and then be able to head off the problem earlier next time.
1) Blocked Goals. This is the kind of thing that happens to you, as a parent, when you want to do a project in the playroom and find that Billy has left his Legos all over the floor and you keep stepping on them. Or, Billy may want to play with his train set only to find that his sister is using it first. These are blocked goals.
2) Violated Rights. That’s when you, as a parent, are in the bathroom and your daughter keeps knocking on the door. You believe you have the right to go to the bathroom in peace. Your daughter may get angry because her brother came into her room and took her favorite CD. Those are violated rights.
3) Unmet Expectations. You had expected that when you got home you would be able to rest but instead you find a big mess. Or Jackie thought she would be going to McDonalds but instead you chose to go to Pizza Hut. Those are unmet expectations.
4) Experiencing Unfairness. When someone takes a toy from a younger child, you may feel angry as a parent because you see unfairness. Or, Tom may feel angry with his teacher because she picked someone else for a privilege he thought he deserved. Those unfair situations can provoke anger.
Whatever the situation, after a child has settled down, talk about the cause. Discuss the value of sacrificing rights, readjusting goals or expectations, and handling unfairness in a godly way. By examining the causes of anger, you can help children gain greater perspective and develop longer lasting strategies for managing their emotions.
For more ideas about helping children deal with anger, consider the CD set, Eight Secrets to Highly Effective Parenting, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. The plan is also sold separately on an individual CD entitled, Helping Children Deal with Anger.
Parenting Tip
Understanding Why We Get Angry
One of the helpful steps in helping children control their anger is to recognize four causes of anger. After children have settled down and you debrief with them about their anger, talk about what’s causing it. You and your child may see patterns and then be able to head off the problem earlier next time.
1) Blocked Goals. This is the kind of thing that happens to you, as a parent, when you want to do a project in the playroom and find that Billy has left his Legos all over the floor and you keep stepping on them. Or, Billy may want to play with his train set only to find that his sister is using it first. These are blocked goals.
2) Violated Rights. That’s when you, as a parent, are in the bathroom and your daughter keeps knocking on the door. You believe you have the right to go to the bathroom in peace. Your daughter may get angry because her brother came into her room and took her favorite CD. Those are violated rights.
3) Unmet Expectations. You had expected that when you got home you would be able to rest but instead you find a big mess. Or Jackie thought she would be going to McDonalds but instead you chose to go to Pizza Hut. Those are unmet expectations.
4) Experiencing Unfairness. When someone takes a toy from a younger child, you may feel angry as a parent because you see unfairness. Or, Tom may feel angry with his teacher because she picked someone else for a privilege he thought he deserved. Those unfair situations can provoke anger.
Whatever the situation, after a child has settled down, talk about the cause. Discuss the value of sacrificing rights, readjusting goals or expectations, and handling unfairness in a godly way. By examining the causes of anger, you can help children gain greater perspective and develop longer lasting strategies for managing their emotions.
For more ideas about helping children deal with anger, consider the CD set, Eight Secrets to Highly Effective Parenting, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. The plan is also sold separately on an individual CD entitled, Helping Children Deal with Anger.
