((PRESCHOOL IS NOW CLOSED!)) Set sail for adventure this summer at ‘Seaside with the Savior’, 5 days of discovering what it means to be a disciple of Jesus. Each day will find us at a port city surrounding the Sea of Galilee, ready to learn life lessons from the life of the Savior. ‘Seaside with the Savior’ is for sailors entering the 1st thru 6th grades in the fall.
Young sailors age 3 thru 5 have their own special program.
‘Seaside with the Savior’ sets sail daily from 9 to 12:30, July 6 -10. Registration for the week is $49.00. Some full and partial scholarships are available by request through the children’s ministry office at Shoreline. Sailors can sign up starting Sunday, May 17 at the Shoreline Bookstore, or mid-week at the church office.
Click here for online registration. ((PRESCHOOL IS NOW CLOSED!))
To volunteer for VBS and join the leader crew of ‘Seaside with the Savior’, please respond to elizabiza@hotmail.com.
((PRESCHOOL IS NOW CLOSED!)) Set sail for adventure this summer at ‘Seaside with the Savior’, 5 days of discovering what it means to be a disciple of Jesus. Each day will find us at a port city surrounding the Sea of Galilee, ready to learn life lessons from the life of the Savior. ‘Seaside with the Savior’ is for sailors entering the 1st thru 6th grades in the fall.
Young sailors age 3 thru 5 have their own special program.
‘Seaside with the Savior’ sets sail daily from 9 to 12:30, July 6 -10. Registration for the week is $49.00. Some full and partial scholarships are available by request through the children’s ministry office at Shoreline. Sailors can sign up starting Sunday, May 17 at the Shoreline Bookstore, or mid-week at the church office.
Click here for online registration. ((PRESCHOOL IS NOW CLOSED!))
To volunteer for VBS and join the leader crew of ‘Seaside with the Savior’, please respond to elizabiza@hotmail.com.
Shoreline Kids will launch Awana Clubs this September on Wednesday nights from 6:30 to 8:00 pm. Awana is for boys and girls from 3 years thru 5th grade who will meet in age-graded clubs to learn God’s Word and learn God’s ways. Each club session includes a high-energy game time, a large group lesson time and a small group handbook time. For more information on Awana Clubs, check out Awana.org.
Club leadership positions are now being filled and leader training will take place this August. Clubber registration will be online starting July 1st. For more information on Awana Clubs @ Shoreline, click here.
Shoreline Kids will launch Awana Clubs this September on Wednesday nights from 6:30 to 8:00 pm. Awana is for boys and girls from 3 years thru 5th grade who will meet in age-graded clubs to learn God’s Word and learn God’s ways. Each club session includes a high-energy game time, a large group lesson time and a small group handbook time. For more information on Awana Clubs, check out Awana.org.
Club leadership positions are now being filled and leader training will take place this August. Clubber registration will be online starting July 1st. For more information on Awana Clubs @ Shoreline, click here.
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Parenting Tip
June 12, 2009
You Don’t Want to Raise a People Pleaser
Many children grow up in homes where parents react with explosive anger. These children learn to make decisions based on avoiding the next angry outburst. Unfortunately they then may grow up to be people pleasers.
Anger appears to work in the short run. It gets kids moving or motivates them to stop and listen. But in the end, it damages a child’s decision-making ability.
Instead of becoming people pleasers, children need to learn how to make decisions based on values and convictions. How do children learn to do that? It comes when parents discipline with firmness and love. But many parents find that approach weak or unrealistic.
What parents need is a plan. Developing consequences that touch a child’s heart is a challenge but the extra time invested pays off. Parenting is hard work and a plan keeps a mom or dad on track. We find that many parents who don’t have a plan resort to anger as a primary consequence.
Anger is easier but we aren’t parenting just for convenience. At least we shouldn’t be. We’re parenting for the long term. When you take the extra time to develop a plan for real heart change, children grow up with the tools they need to be successful in life.
Take some extra time and look for proactive ways to develop character in your children. It will change your children and it will change you. No longer will you have to resort to anger to get things done. Now you have a plan that will mold and guide your children both now and for the future.
For more information about developing an Action Plan for your children read the book, Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.
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Parenting Tip
June 12, 2009
You Don’t Want to Raise a People Pleaser
Many children grow up in homes where parents react with explosive anger. These children learn to make decisions based on avoiding the next angry outburst. Unfortunately they then may grow up to be people pleasers.
Anger appears to work in the short run. It gets kids moving or motivates them to stop and listen. But in the end, it damages a child’s decision-making ability.
Instead of becoming people pleasers, children need to learn how to make decisions based on values and convictions. How do children learn to do that? It comes when parents discipline with firmness and love. But many parents find that approach weak or unrealistic.
What parents need is a plan. Developing consequences that touch a child’s heart is a challenge but the extra time invested pays off. Parenting is hard work and a plan keeps a mom or dad on track. We find that many parents who don’t have a plan resort to anger as a primary consequence.
Anger is easier but we aren’t parenting just for convenience. At least we shouldn’t be. We’re parenting for the long term. When you take the extra time to develop a plan for real heart change, children grow up with the tools they need to be successful in life.
Take some extra time and look for proactive ways to develop character in your children. It will change your children and it will change you. No longer will you have to resort to anger to get things done. Now you have a plan that will mold and guide your children both now and for the future.
For more information about developing an Action Plan for your children read the book, Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.
Parenting Tip
May 27, 2009
Does My Child Really Want Advice?
Sometimes a parent is ready to offer a solution to a child before that child is ready to receive it. In fact, many times children share problems with parents because they want sympathy, not solutions. If you move into a problem-solving mode too quickly, you may get resistance from your child.
Try to discern whether your child is ready to hear some possible solutions. Asking permission is an excellent way to do that. “Would you like an idea?” “Would you like to hear how other people might solve that problem?” If you launch into solutions before your child is ready, you’ll find yourself getting frustrated at the child’s lack of responsiveness to your suggestions. A simple question can open the door for permission to offer solutions.
By the way dads, you might try this with your wife, as well. Those who are problem-solvers need to recognize that sometimes people present a problem just because they want to be cared for, not because they don’t have answers. Your wife or child may be fully capable of solving the problem. But first she just wants a listening ear, some one to stand beside her in the problem.
It’s not enough to have answers to people’s problems. We also must be sensitive enough to know what is needed in the situation. Resist the temptation to offer solutions until you sense your child is ready to hear them. Empathy goes a long way in building emotional bonds with those we love.
This parenting tip comes from the book, Home Improvement, The Parenting Book You Can Read to Your Kids Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.
Parenting Tip
May 27, 2009
Does My Child Really Want Advice?
Sometimes a parent is ready to offer a solution to a child before that child is ready to receive it. In fact, many times children share problems with parents because they want sympathy, not solutions. If you move into a problem-solving mode too quickly, you may get resistance from your child.
Try to discern whether your child is ready to hear some possible solutions. Asking permission is an excellent way to do that. “Would you like an idea?” “Would you like to hear how other people might solve that problem?” If you launch into solutions before your child is ready, you’ll find yourself getting frustrated at the child’s lack of responsiveness to your suggestions. A simple question can open the door for permission to offer solutions.
By the way dads, you might try this with your wife, as well. Those who are problem-solvers need to recognize that sometimes people present a problem just because they want to be cared for, not because they don’t have answers. Your wife or child may be fully capable of solving the problem. But first she just wants a listening ear, some one to stand beside her in the problem.
It’s not enough to have answers to people’s problems. We also must be sensitive enough to know what is needed in the situation. Resist the temptation to offer solutions until you sense your child is ready to hear them. Empathy goes a long way in building emotional bonds with those we love.
This parenting tip comes from the book, Home Improvement, The Parenting Book You Can Read to Your Kids Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.
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Parenting Tip
May 19, 2009
Sad Instead of Mad
Often parents have a inadequate repertoire of discipline techniques so they do what comes naturally—they use anger as a consequence. Anger becomes the punishment that children learn to fear and the result is distance in relationships. Parents want to express disapproval for misbehavior and anger becomes the vehicle for showing it.
Imagine this scenario: You’re making dinner and your six-year-old daughter, Amy, comes into the room complaining that she’s hungry. You tell her that you’re making dinner and that she needs to wait. She persists and complains that she hasn’t eaten all day. You remind her that she had a snack a few hours ago and then encourage her to leave the room.
Instead of leaving, she begins to whine, “I’m starving.” Finally you sigh and offer her a banana or an apple. “I don’t like bananas! I don’t want an apple!” Okay, you give in. You offer her some milk and a cookie. Amy is so excited she jumps up…and knocks over the milk! You’ve had it! That was the last straw. Now you’re really angry and yell, “What’s the matter with you? Now look what you’ve done!!”
Think a minute. What caused you to lose control? Was it the spilled milk, or was it the fifteen minutes of whining and complaining? If we wait until we become angry to discipline, then we end up responding like a time bomb. Our children can never be sure when we’ll explode.
In this situation, Mom needed to take action earlier. “Amy, it makes me sad that you keep asking after I said ‘No.’ You need to go to your room until I call you for dinner.”
In honor-based parenting, anger and its accompanying distance are not appropriate consequences. Instead, parents learn to reflect sorrow. Some parents may feel like hypocrites because they don’t feel sad, they feel mad. But it doesn’t take long for a parent to recognize that the sorrow is there. It’s just masked by the anger. If you peel away the anger you will genuinely feel sad that your child is acting out or choosing to disobey. You see that their misbehavior will lead to an unhappy and unsuccessful life. Reflecting sadness is much more beneficial to the child and to the relationship.
Try it; you may be surprised. Children often open up in response to sadness and you may end up with a productive conversation. Sadness opens relationships; anger shuts them down. It may take some practice, and self control, but your relationships with your kids will benefit in the end.
This tip comes from the book, Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.
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Parenting Tip
May 19, 2009
Sad Instead of Mad
Often parents have a inadequate repertoire of discipline techniques so they do what comes naturally—they use anger as a consequence. Anger becomes the punishment that children learn to fear and the result is distance in relationships. Parents want to express disapproval for misbehavior and anger becomes the vehicle for showing it.
Imagine this scenario: You’re making dinner and your six-year-old daughter, Amy, comes into the room complaining that she’s hungry. You tell her that you’re making dinner and that she needs to wait. She persists and complains that she hasn’t eaten all day. You remind her that she had a snack a few hours ago and then encourage her to leave the room.
Instead of leaving, she begins to whine, “I’m starving.” Finally you sigh and offer her a banana or an apple. “I don’t like bananas! I don’t want an apple!” Okay, you give in. You offer her some milk and a cookie. Amy is so excited she jumps up…and knocks over the milk! You’ve had it! That was the last straw. Now you’re really angry and yell, “What’s the matter with you? Now look what you’ve done!!”
Think a minute. What caused you to lose control? Was it the spilled milk, or was it the fifteen minutes of whining and complaining? If we wait until we become angry to discipline, then we end up responding like a time bomb. Our children can never be sure when we’ll explode.
In this situation, Mom needed to take action earlier. “Amy, it makes me sad that you keep asking after I said ‘No.’ You need to go to your room until I call you for dinner.”
In honor-based parenting, anger and its accompanying distance are not appropriate consequences. Instead, parents learn to reflect sorrow. Some parents may feel like hypocrites because they don’t feel sad, they feel mad. But it doesn’t take long for a parent to recognize that the sorrow is there. It’s just masked by the anger. If you peel away the anger you will genuinely feel sad that your child is acting out or choosing to disobey. You see that their misbehavior will lead to an unhappy and unsuccessful life. Reflecting sadness is much more beneficial to the child and to the relationship.
Try it; you may be surprised. Children often open up in response to sadness and you may end up with a productive conversation. Sadness opens relationships; anger shuts them down. It may take some practice, and self control, but your relationships with your kids will benefit in the end.
This tip comes from the book, Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.
