Parenting Tip
Understanding Why We Get Angry
One of the helpful steps in helping children control their anger is to recognize four causes of anger. After children have settled down and you debrief with them about their anger, talk about what’s causing it. You and your child may see patterns and then be able to head off the problem earlier next time.
1) Blocked Goals. This is the kind of thing that happens to you, as a parent, when you want to do a project in the playroom and find that Billy has left his Legos all over the floor and you keep stepping on them. Or, Billy may want to play with his train set only to find that his sister is using it first. These are blocked goals.
2) Violated Rights. That’s when you, as a parent, are in the bathroom and your daughter keeps knocking on the door. You believe you have the right to go to the bathroom in peace. Your daughter may get angry because her brother came into her room and took her favorite CD. Those are violated rights.
3) Unmet Expectations. You had expected that when you got home you would be able to rest but instead you find a big mess. Or Jackie thought she would be going to McDonalds but instead you chose to go to Pizza Hut. Those are unmet expectations.
4) Experiencing Unfairness. When someone takes a toy from a younger child, you may feel angry as a parent because you see unfairness. Or, Tom may feel angry with his teacher because she picked someone else for a privilege he thought he deserved. Those unfair situations can provoke anger.
Whatever the situation, after a child has settled down, talk about the cause. Discuss the value of sacrificing rights, readjusting goals or expectations, and handling unfairness in a godly way. By examining the causes of anger, you can help children gain greater perspective and develop longer lasting strategies for managing their emotions.
For more ideas about helping children deal with anger, consider the CD set, Eight Secrets to Highly Effective Parenting, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. The plan is also sold separately on an individual CD entitled, Helping Children Deal with Anger.
Parenting Tip
Understanding Why We Get Angry
One of the helpful steps in helping children control their anger is to recognize four causes of anger. After children have settled down and you debrief with them about their anger, talk about what’s causing it. You and your child may see patterns and then be able to head off the problem earlier next time.
1) Blocked Goals. This is the kind of thing that happens to you, as a parent, when you want to do a project in the playroom and find that Billy has left his Legos all over the floor and you keep stepping on them. Or, Billy may want to play with his train set only to find that his sister is using it first. These are blocked goals.
2) Violated Rights. That’s when you, as a parent, are in the bathroom and your daughter keeps knocking on the door. You believe you have the right to go to the bathroom in peace. Your daughter may get angry because her brother came into her room and took her favorite CD. Those are violated rights.
3) Unmet Expectations. You had expected that when you got home you would be able to rest but instead you find a big mess. Or Jackie thought she would be going to McDonalds but instead you chose to go to Pizza Hut. Those are unmet expectations.
4) Experiencing Unfairness. When someone takes a toy from a younger child, you may feel angry as a parent because you see unfairness. Or, Tom may feel angry with his teacher because she picked someone else for a privilege he thought he deserved. Those unfair situations can provoke anger.
Whatever the situation, after a child has settled down, talk about the cause. Discuss the value of sacrificing rights, readjusting goals or expectations, and handling unfairness in a godly way. By examining the causes of anger, you can help children gain greater perspective and develop longer lasting strategies for managing their emotions.
For more ideas about helping children deal with anger, consider the CD set, Eight Secrets to Highly Effective Parenting, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. The plan is also sold separately on an individual CD entitled, Helping Children Deal with Anger.
Get ready for an amazing night of student-made videos! That’s right Shoreline, your High School Youth Group is putting on one of the more amazing awards show this side of the Himalayas! This Saturday (November 22nd), in the Worship Center at 6 PM. So remember, students, this is an great outreach opportunity for your friends who don’t come to church. And don’t forget: dress to impress!!! Dinner will be provided. Come on out to basically the best night of your life.
Get ready for an amazing night of student-made videos! That’s right Shoreline, your High School Youth Group is putting on one of the more amazing awards show this side of the Himalayas! This Saturday (November 22nd), in the Worship Center at 6 PM. So remember, students, this is an great outreach opportunity for your friends who don’t come to church. And don’t forget: dress to impress!!! Dinner will be provided. Come on out to basically the best night of your life.
G-Force kids should remember to bring back their boarding pass from each week’s ‘Good vs. Evil’ lesson. It could just bring some good fruit. This week Gavin’s boarding pass earned him a trip to the treasure chest and his key opened the lock. His reward? A $10 Jamba Juice gift card.
Winning keys still remain so bring your signed boarding pass for a chance to open the lock. Boarding passes are handed out at the end of class each week at G-Force.
The current G-Force focus, Good vs. Evil, continues thru November 30. Second thru 5th graders can join in Sunday mornings at 8:00, 9:30 or 11:00.
G-Force kids should remember to bring back their boarding pass from each week’s ‘Good vs. Evil’ lesson. It could just bring some good fruit. This week Gavin’s boarding pass earned him a trip to the treasure chest and his key opened the lock. His reward? A $10 Jamba Juice gift card.
Winning keys still remain so bring your signed boarding pass for a chance to open the lock. Boarding passes are handed out at the end of class each week at G-Force.
The current G-Force focus, Good vs. Evil, continues thru November 30. Second thru 5th graders can join in Sunday mornings at 8:00, 9:30 or 11:00.
A scant three weeks away, the Guatemala trip is shaping up nicely. A team of eleven folks have attended missions classes, been briefed and met several times in preparation. In the village of Pixabaj they will continue to finish the construction on the school for Mayan children founded by Outpost Ministries director Carlos Nevarez and scout out the needs for the local church to receive support from future teams.
The container in back of Shoreline filled with donated goods headed towards a church in Ivory Coast will depart the premises in five days to be staged in Oakland before heading over sees. A team will meet up with the container next year to distribute goods, do construction on the church and train local Pastors. The full itinerary and mission goal are still in development; stay tuned for more info.
A scant three weeks away, the Guatemala trip is shaping up nicely. A team of eleven folks have attended missions classes, been briefed and met several times in preparation. In the village of Pixabaj they will continue to finish the construction on the school for Mayan children founded by Outpost Ministries director Carlos Nevarez and scout out the needs for the local church to receive support from future teams.
The container in back of Shoreline filled with donated goods headed towards a church in Ivory Coast will depart the premises in five days to be staged in Oakland before heading over sees. A team will meet up with the container next year to distribute goods, do construction on the church and train local Pastors. The full itinerary and mission goal are still in development; stay tuned for more info.
The women of Shoreline and friends gather on December 1st for a glorious Christmas dinner and will be served by none other than the Men of Men’s Ministries! Yes, we can do two things at once: walk and carry plates. Come and witness this remarkable event! (the Women’s dinner, not men doing two things at once).
If you’re guy and want to help out, call Shoreline at 655-0100 and ask for Karen Hughes.
Blessings to all and stay cool during the Holiday build-up!
The women of Shoreline and friends gather on December 1st for a glorious Christmas dinner and will be served by none other than the Men of Men’s Ministries! Yes, we can do two things at once: walk and carry plates. Come and witness this remarkable event! (the Women’s dinner, not men doing two things at once).
If you’re guy and want to help out, call Shoreline at 655-0100 and ask for Karen Hughes.
Blessings to all and stay cool during the Holiday build-up!
